Posted by on Sep 29, 2014 in Blog, Breast cancer, Colorectal cancer, Coronary artery disease, Diabetes mellitus, Hypertension, Lung cancer, Lymphoma, Melanoma, Prostate cancer, Rheumatoid Arthritis, Stroke | 6 comments

Being a Spoonie

You may not know it but if you are a patient with a chronic illness, you may be a spoonie.

In 2010 Christine Miserandino wrote a post called The Spoon Theory. In the post, Christine describes explaining to her best friend what it really feels like to live with Lupus. She asks her friend to hold 12 spoons and tells her that the spoons are Lupus. Then her friend describes her day. With each activity, like getting up out of bed or getting dressed, her friend loses a spoon. With the limited number of spoons, her friend must choose what activities she will engage in over the course of the day.

As a healthy person, her friend doesn’t have to think about how she will portion out her spoons and she has an unlimited number of spoons. As her friend lost her spoons, Christine could tell that she had found a way to explain her life.

“when I saw her upset I knew maybe I was getting through to her. I didn’t want my friend to be upset, but at the same time I was happy to think finally maybe someone understood me a little bit. She had tears in her eyes and asked quietly “Christine, How do you do it? Do you really do this everyday?” I explained that some days were worse then others; some days I have more spoons then most. But I can never make it go away and I can’t forget about it, I always have to think about it. I handed her a spoon I had been holding in reserve. I said simply, “I have learned to live life with an extra spoon in my pocket, in reserve. You need to always be prepared.”

Life With a Chronic Illness

Having heard “But you don’t look sick” all her life, is part of Christine’s story. The Spoon Theory post has resonated with so many people and taken on its own life. There are 2933 comments on the post. She has over 126,000 likes on her Facebook Spoonie community page and there is a spoonie chat (#spoonie) on Twitter.

How Many Spoons Do You Have?spoonies

Helping healthy people understand illness is important. Providing them with a visual tool helps. In fact, it can help people appreciate their good health–that they don’t have to count spoons. And it can help them see what a gift it is for someone with a chronic illness to spend time with them.

I give a piece of myself, in every sense of the word when I do anything. It has become an inside joke. I have become famous for saying to people jokingly that they should feel special when I spend time with them, because they have one of my “spoons”.

People with high blood pressure, diabetes, breast cancer, lung cancer, prostate cancer, rheumatoid arthritis, colon cancer have all heard “but you don’t look sick” before. Don’t be afraid to join the spoonies groups for support. And wear your spoons with pride.